Firsts come in many shapes and sizes. Sometimes we think a “first” has to be monumental to be important, but we do lots of little firsts that are just as meaningful. Listen to my guests talk about their recent firsts.
To recap, their firsts were:
- Hot air balloon ride
- Learned to use Zoom
- Walked to the post office
- Started a Twitch show
- Learned to use Trello for project management
- Spent time with ex and both of their new partners
- Organized an online candidate forum
Firsts are very important to me. Here are my recent firsts:
I recently vacationed in Maine for the first time. I’d only ever driven into Maine for the day without staying overnight. This time, I stayed a few blocks from the beach in Old Orchard Beach for a week. It was lovely fall weather, and one day the fog was so thick, because of the cooling temps, that you couldn’t see the water from the beach. I visited over Labor Day weekend, after which the whole town pretty much shuts down because tourist season is over. It was a quiet getaway that was great for relaxing.
I also recently went swimsuit shopping for the first time with a boyfriend. He was sweet and supportive, and I know he would’ve told me I looked good in a burlap sack. I came away with three new suits that I felt made me look attractive, and it was the least traumatic swimsuit shopping experience of my 40’s.
A recent relationship first was that I learned to hold on loosely to someone I love, to allow them space to grow and grace in the midst of that growth. This sounds easy but can be very difficult for someone who used to be on the other side needing the grace. Fortunately, my past experience gave me empathy, and I am learning to use it lovingly on both my partner and myself.
The last new food I tried was buffalo chicken in a waffle cone. It was different and delicious!
The last new board game I played was Joking Hazzard. What fun! And I won because… wait for it… I’m hilarious! (Just ask me! I’ll tell you!)
The last crazy thing I did was swim with jellyfish! That’s right… our beach has been littered with jellyfish, but my friend assured me they were harmless “moon jellies.” So I jumped in and hung out with them for 15-20 minutes. I brushed against one but didn’t get stung, and I’m so grateful for that experience.
All these little firsts add to life’s adventure, and I’m grateful for every single one of them.
This question and the others in this series are based on the book “Know Yourself” by Irene Smit and Astrid van der Hulst. Interested in knowing yourself better? Buy the book! And answer along with me.
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